The Year of Feeling Better

shead_olympus_pristinaWhat a year, I keep hearing everyone-including myself-say, during these last days of 2008. I can’t remember when I’ve heard so much seemingly bad news in one 12-month period.

As any New Year approaches, it’s pretty common to hear and voice our hopes that the next 12 months will consist of brighter days. Some of us also tend to throw in some intentions or resolutions about how we plan to make that so.

Are they worth the effort? Does any good really come of the good intentions? Would we be better off just putting on a party hat and throwing back a few?

You often talk of resolutions particularly at this time of year and so here’s one we would love to see you taking on. Make this year the “Year of Feeling Better and Better”. Take the year off from telling it like it is and instead of focusing on what’s ‘wrong’ around you, focus on what feels good. Find it. Give it your full attention. Work it. Practice it.

“But,” you say, “what about the facts?” “What about the economic crisis?” “What about war and famine and poverty?” What about my tenuous job situation?” “What about my teetering or tottering relationship?” “What about my failing health?”

And we say, “Focus on what feels good.” Why, you ask? Because-and we suggest you write this down: “Looking at what you ‘think’ you need in order to feel good, feels bad.” Rarely can you be looking at anything you THINK you need in order to feel good and feel good. It doesn’t work. The very act of thinking you NEED something-anything-to feel good, is placing the power of feeling good outside yourself. It’s called ‘conditional love’ . . . or ‘conditional abundance’ . . . or ‘conditional joy’.

Over and over again you put the cart in front of the horse. You put the effect ahead of the cause. You teach yourself to believe that you must have this or that or the other before you can feel good, and you even forget that feeling good was the reason for wanting this or that or the other in the first place.

Start with feeling good. Make it the most important thing you do. Make it who you are. Make it what you’re about. Make it your mantra and your calling. Make it your passion. Make it your practice.

We promise you-no matter how far the stock market plunges . . . no matter whether your lover stays or goes, no matter what label your doctor gives you for your ailment . . . there is never a shortage of things to look at that will feel better and better.  They’re everywhere.

You will argue and argue that it can’t be that simple. Or that it’s too hard. And we keep saying, it IS that simple. And it’s only hard because you’ve practiced the opposite for so very long. And because it is very difficult for you to revise, much less reverse your beliefs as quickly as you would like.

You do this all the time. You find yourself in the throes of depression or despair and something else-something bright or cheerful or hopeful or sweet-momentarily snags your attention and what happens? You temporarily forget your pain. It feels like an accident-like a brief reprieve from your suffering that you had nothing to do with . . . but in fact you did it. You turned your attention to something that felt better. And lo and behold-you felt better.

We won’t change our tune because we know that if you decided to make feeling good the song that you keep singing, you would lose interest in the old sad songs. You would feel too good to go back to the focus on all that feels bad. You would see that your joy is in your hands and that you are your own Source of good tidings and great joy-at this or any other time of year.

Resolve to make this the Year of Feeling Better and Better. Turn your attention to anything around you, in front of you or behind you that assists you in shifting your focus just enough to feel a little better, and then a little better . . . and guess what-before you know it, you’ll be feeling better. If you’re not careful, you might even go so far as to have a Happy New Year!

I think that’s called threatening us with a good time. Easy for them to say? Walk a mile in our worn moccasins? I can be as hard to convince as anyone. I wish I could say I’ve got it down pat.

But as 2009 moves in, the best I can say is that anything that would make this year the Year of Feeling Better, feels like a pretty good way to say, “Out with the old-and in with the new.”


About Dan

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Posted on January 1, 2009, in Abraham-Hicks, Abundance, Creating Your Own Reality, Deliberate Creating, Empowerment, Joyful Living, Law of Attraction, Manifesting, Prosperity, Self Development, Well being. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. This is exactly what I needed at this time. 🙂

  2. Great post, Dan, and a potent (and important) reminder. Thanks!

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