Is The Future Our Business?
I’ve noticed that one of the things that happens when you start describing yourself as a channel or an intuitive or a psychic, is that people want you to predict their future. Lately I can’t seem to get away from questions like the ones in that old Doris Day song, “Que Sera Sera.” “What will I be? Will I be pretty? Will I be rich?”
We all want to know on some level what’s ahead for us. What’s going to happen? What can we expect? Will things get better? We think there’s some power in that ‘knowledge’ and many of us (myself included) will often seek out those who we think might have the answers.
Something about being on the receiving end of those questions, though, always makes me a little uneasy. Fortune telling is fascinating and even fun sometimes. But how much does it help us?
I asked The Shower Team, “Is the future really ours to know? Is it even any of our business?”
It is understandable that you wonder about the future, particularly when you are holding a view of yourself or your experience where you see your life as something that happens to you rather than something that you are creating moment by moment. If you feel that the events of your life are more or less random events or are controlled by some higher power who is pulling the strings because you’re just not smart enough to manage the whole business . . . . then it stands to reason that you would have great curiosity about what’s ‘out there’ for you or what will come your way next . . . or when the things you want might appear.
The problem with that sort of speculation is that it is often attached to a sense of powerlessness. In fact those very questions: When will I meet the lover of my dreams . . . what will I be doing a year from now . . . . where will I be living when all the things I’ve asked for finally come . . . and so on and so on . . . are questions that suggest some sense of your having little to no say in the direction that your life takes from wherever you stand.
There is nothing wrong with imagining your future, of course. We urge you to do it as often as you can, provided what you imagine feels joyful and eager and compelling to you. What we also urge, however, is for you to recognize that you are the author, the creator, of whatever future comes your way.
You shape your future with every choice you make. Every single thing that you give your attention to over time helps to chart the course of your life. Everything you focus on . . . everything you look at with consistent joy or hope or pleasure or anticipation—or with consistent worry or fear or doubt or anxiety . . . becomes part of the fabric of your future.
But more often than not, you don’t approach your future with that sort of perspective. Instead, you wait for your life to happen in many respects . . . and you think about what’s coming as though it’s part of a script somebody else is writing that you haven’t been allowed to read beyond today’s episode. What this does is keep you in the dark about your own life and about the possibilities that are before you, waiting for your creative input.
When you ask, “Will I meet the man or woman of my dreams?” or whatever it is in your future that you can’t quite trust, you are in a sense saying, “I have serious doubts that I’m going to find anybody.” Why else would you ask? If you were confident and eager and joyfully anticipating the rendezvous with that one who ill be the perfect match for you, then the question would be irrelevant or at least, unnecessary. Your belief in your ability to manifest this desire would be evident in how you feel and what you think . . . and the future would simply be that vividly drawn, lushly felt image that you have created in your mind and that you are moving toward as a result of continually choosing the thoughts that line up with it.
What we would encourage you to do is to reframe your picture of the future. Instead of seeing it as some inevitable chain of events that you must simply wait for and accept . . . see it for the powerfully dynamic production that it is . . . see it as a play or film or novel that you are writing one chapter, one day, one line at a time . . . shaping it with each thought you keep thinking, each desire you keep launching. See your future as the fluid and responsive canvas and palette that it is, being ever colored and fashioned and modified and perfected by the choices you make.
You don’t have to do this, of course. You can continue to hold whatever belief you choose, continue to practice whatever thoughts are most comfortable or familiar to you. You can consult whomever you like and believe whatever answers you are given. But whether you see it or not, the future that unfolds for you will always—always—be the result of what you give your attention to where you stand here and now . . . and in the moment after that . . . and in the moment after that . . .
So when you ask about the future, instead of asking about what’s coming when or who’s going to show up where or how things will be for you there or then . . . ask instead, “What will I focus on next that will take me forward in the direction of my heart’s desire?”
You’ll never go wrong with that approach—and never need anyone to ever tell you again what your future holds—unless you just like hearing somebody tell you what you already know.
I’m pretty sure they’re not really trying to put psychics out of business. I remember hearing a very wise (from my perspective) intuitive say that the best question to ask in a reading isn’t “What does the future hold?” but rather, “What can I understand about the present that will help make the future brighter?” Clearly she wasn’t as longwinded as The Team but the same point seemed to be made.
If I pay attention and focus more consciously on the future I’m creating in the here and now, then it probably stands to reason that some if not most of the answers to my questions about the future will become largely self-evident. That doesn’t mean I’ll never get a second (or third) opinion, but it does offer me a more self-reliant approach to the whole business of what will be.
That leaves me feeling a little bit surer not only of my ability to shape my tomorrows but to tell how they’re likely to shape up. And that leaves me feeling like a much more self-reliant psychic—and for the present moment, complete.