Ready Or Not?
It seems every time I turn around lately I am hearing the question—if only in my head—about whether I am ready” to have the things I have been asking for. Am I ready for the new and satisfying relationship? Am I ready to take the next steps on a new career path? Am I ready for real abundance to flow like the river I keep hearing that it is?
It seems on the surface, like a dumb question. How could I want something so much and not be ready to have it? So I asked The Shower Team, when a desire is that longstanding and that strong, isn’t readiness implied?
In a sense, the answer is embedded in the question itself, in that if you are asking if you are ready to receive something that you’ve been wanting, then chances are pretty good that you are not quite there yet. The mere fact of asking that question indicates the presence of some doubt or skepticism or hesitation on your part, which at the most basic level, equals resistance to what you are asking for.
However, it is a good question to look at because it underscores or highlights so well the way the process of asking and receiving plays out for you. When you speak of “readiness” what you are really asking about is the extent to which the energy summoned by your desire is flowing—and the extent to which you are either flowing with it, or standing in opposition to it.
When the energy is flowing in response to your desire, to your asking . . . and you are flowing with that current (i.e., not resisting), then not only are you ready, you are receiving—or will be very shortly. The Universe does not and in fact cannot withhold anything from you under those conditions.
But when that energy is flowing and you are standing there in opposition to it—that is, when you are questioning it in some way, or doubting it in some way, or thinking conflicting feelings about it . . . then you are not “ready” in the purest sense of the word because you have not fully aligned with what you’ve asked for. Some part of you is still not quite believing it or not quite trusting it or not quite seeing yourself as worthy of it.
So another way of asking, “Am I ready?” for the having of what I want is to ask yourself how you feel about having what you want—and then be very very honest with yourself as you respond. If you feel some doubt or hesitation or apprehension or anxiety, then acknowledge that’s where you are and understand that all you need to do from there is to begin to—and continue to—reach for the thoughts and feelings about what you want that offer relief from that doubt or hesitation or anxiety.
In other words . . . . your work is to feel as good as you possibly can about anything that you’re asking and waiting for. If you discover that you are still resisting the having of your desire in some way, don’t further delay or impede your progress by stomping your feel or smacking yourself in the head or throwing in the towel . . . Rather, just look around for thoughts that feel even a little better than the ones you’re currently thinking about that topic.
For example, if a lovely and satisfying new relationship is your dream, and it’s been a long time still not coming—and you notice as you wonder about that, that there are some little nagging feelings of doubt that you’ll really find someone or questions about whether someone you would want to be with would ever really be attracted to you . . . Say to yourself, “What reasons can I find to believe that this is truly available to me?” Or “What are some realistic, plausible things I could say about having this thing that I desire, that would feel better for me to give my attention to?”
Readiness is not something that is bestowed upon you at random or that falls out of the sky on some lucky few . . . It is a process of letting go of whatever thoughts you are clinging to that contradict the having of what you want. Identify those thoughts as you’re able and then practice reaching for softer or gentler or more soothing or reassuring thoughts that are accessible to you—that is, that you can believe as you say them.
When you ask yourself, “Am I ready to have this wonderful new relationship . . . or this unprecedented prosperity” . . . . or whatever the desire may be . . . really listen for the answer. Really notice how you feel about that desire being fulfilled . . . Really notice if you are standing there absolutely believing in it and expecting it and eagerly and enthusiastically anticipating it . . . or not.
If not, then getting truly ready simply means being where you are, feeling whatever you are feeling—and bit by bit, thought by thought, moving yourself into a readier place. As you continue to reach for and find the best feeling thoughts available to you and to gradually let go of those thoughts that oppose or contradict what you want . . . the questions about readiness will become irrelevant as you begin to flow more and more sweetly and swiftly in the direction of those dreams that you are clearly ready for.
I must have been ready to hear that. I remember as a kid all the races that would start with “Ready, set, go!” Sometimes a prankster would get some cheap thrills by yelling instead, “Ready, set . . . DON’T go!” and several of us would end up face down in the dirt or otherwise providing entertainment for the onlookers.
I like the idea of there being no need to worry about being ready. Sort of like the runners or other athletes who have trained themselves to the point of certain readiness . . . or the musicians who have practiced to the point of utter confidence before a performance. Our thoughts about what we want really are the race we’re running or the music we’re playing, etc.
Maybe the point is, I’ll know readiness when I feel it—and when I stop wondering about it. For now I can at least say I’m getting ready. And that leaves me with one or two fewer questions—and for the moment, more ready to be complete.