Wishbones, Wishcraft, and Workshops—Oh My!
How old were you when you stopped believing in magic? I don’t think I’ve hit that age just yet, but keeping the faith gets pretty challenging sometimes, particularly when I’m not feeling very adept at conjuring up something that I really crave, or making some change that I’ve been trying to make for quite a while.
There are plenty of folks around to remind me that life’s not a fairy tale but sometimes I still end up feeling like Cinderfella, sitting in the corner, feeling sorry for myself, while those around me seem to be dressing up and getting ready to go have a good time. Wishing on a star is easy. But after a while, that same bright, shiny star can almost seem to be mocking me as I continue to sit in the same corner, wishing for the same things.
So I asked the Shower Team about my part in the fairy tale—and about how long I’m supposed to wait around for a seemingly tardy fairy godmother?
Your desires often appear to you as the short end of a stick. You identify something that you want and you feel the call of this desire . . . you feel the power it has to summon life force through you . . . but then as the desire forms and exists for you, you often experience it more in terms of the lack of what you want. The lack of what you desire becomes your focus. The thing you want that is not here yet becomes your point of attention, so that every time you pick up that topic, you are picking up the short end of that stick—the not having of what you want so much.
Many many others have spoken or written about the value of altering your perception on any topic that is of concern to you or changing your point of view about something that you desire. It can be and has been offered in a variety of ways but the point of such efforts or exercises or what you commonly refer to as visualizations or processes, isn’t to ‘trick’ yourselves into belief. The object of these activities is, rather, to lead your thoughts in the direction of feeling good about the desires you are holding. It is the difference between sitting in a corner and wringing your hands about what hasn’t come to you yet versus being the eagerly anticipating child right before Christmas who just knows that that bicycle is on its way and who thinks about the coming of that bike with joy and delight and the absolute belief that Santa or Mom and Dad will not fail to deliver.
It is much easier, of course, for children to believe and to expect to receive what they’re asking for, because they have not been exposed—usually—to as many of the reasons offered by others for doubting. Children haven’t been around long enough to pick up as many of the messages to be “realistic” or to face the ‘facts’.
And in fact, children are much better at practicing the sort of allowing—the ‘wishcraft’ that brings the fulfillment of your desires. But we would offer to you that it is never too late in your life to begin to practice this sort of ‘magic’. You can begin wherever you are, to offer a purer vibration around any desire that you have. You can choose in any moment, when you have picked up the short end of the stick relative to what you want, when you have pulled off what feels like the shorter piece of the wishbone, to immediately shift your thoughts in the other direction . . . to begin to imagine the fulfillment of that desire . . . to begin to see yourself discovering that bike on Christmas morning and then seeing yourself on that bike with the wind in your hair and the sun on your face . . . or seeing yourself with that sought-after mate on some magnificent beach or seeing yourself enjoying the benefits of increased cash flow or seeing yourself with renewed vigor and restored health.
You can practice this ‘wishcraft,’ you can “workshop” any desire any time you are feeling the lack of it. The object of such a game is simply to shift your thinking in a better feeling direction . . . to shift your focus from the lack of something to the having of it in a way that lets you feel better about that subject . . . and as soon as you are feeling a little better about that subject . . . to get out and to get on with your life experience.
You are so often expressing the need to feel like you are ‘doing something” about the fulfilling of your desire. And what we would suggest to you is that you make this kind of effort, this practice of ‘wishcraft’ or workshopping your desires . . . let that be the action you take, the deliberate efforts that you contribute toward manifesting your dreams. Understand the power of your thinking and the power of your perception relative to anything you want . . . and then make deliberate efforts to direct your thoughts toward the joyful receiving of your desires . . . the images and the sensations and the feelings of having and enjoying what you are asking for.
As soon as you notice that you are, once again, holding the short end of that stick, take yourself to the workshop where you get to choose the picture you are seeing, where you get to create the image of you having what you want, enjoying what you want . . . Spend only as much time there as it takes to feel a little better about this desire . . . and then leave, knowing that you can and will return any time it is necessary for you to feel more in control of the process of creating your own experience. Become practitioners of “wishcraft” or more precisely, of “shiftcraft” . . . where the magic you make is that of shifting your focus from hot having to having . . . from observing to imagining . . . to actually take the short end of that stick and to apply the fire of playful and joyful imagination to it . . . to quickly forge a better feeling flow of thought on that topic—and then to leave it there, cooling, until the next time you feel like playing the game again.
You can cast yourself in the part of Cinderella . . . crying in the corner over all your unfulfilled desires . . . or you can be your own fairy godmother . . . making your own magic . . . seeing and believing that you can have or do or be what you want, by choosing to see yourself the way you want to be—and for less time than it takes to sweep the ashes from around the fireplace . . .
I guess this would apply to the “Some Day My Prince Will Come” notion, too. Maybe it seems silly to talk about fairy tales in relation to the nuts and bolts of real, everyday dreams and desires. The pragmatists would surely scoff. For that matter, I’m not above an occasional scoff or two myself.
But for those of us for whom a life without magic just feels way too dreary, these words offer not only solace, but some promising solutions. I like the idea of taking part in the process, rather than waiting for someone else’s magic wand to start waving in my direction. So if setting up shop serves to pave the way for my own pumpkin-turned-chariot . . . I say, let the workshopping begin! Beats the hell out of sweeping up ashes—and it leaves me feeling more active . . . more adept . . . and for now, more complete.